2020: This is called EMPOWERMENT

Have you been feeling the intense energies of 2020 so far?

During these moments it's so very easy to think that the reason for the discomfort is someone else's fault.

I know that when I'm not fully paying attention to my thought patterns, I found I quite easily come into blame mode and don't stop to think about the impact of this behaviour.

You see, blame is a trap. It stops us from fully accepting responsibility for our behaviour and actions and also stops us from seeing the beauty and gift of this intense moment for growth and learning.

It's never about them... it's always about you.

What? am I joking?

Nope.

For example:

I'm moody and feeling wounded because I feel I’ve been taken advantage of and in this moment I feel it’s all their fault.

Even in the most awful moments when truly dire things are happening or have happened, there's the possibility to learn about yourself and evolve.

So I ask myself:

* what programs are going on for me with this feeling? Eg: feeling like a victim, the martyr complex, the feeling of being totally powerless.

We’ve often talked about how these are essentially thought viruses and stop giving them power we need to keep coming back to the realisation that these are false truths.

I know it’s difficult when the person in front of you is exhibiting intense behaviours and it can feel like the both of you are escalating the situation and that if you’re honest with yourself you think its their fault.

But this is yet another part of learning about energy management and having healthy boundaries.

The key is to recognise that if one of you changed behaviour then it’s likely that the situation will change and possibly even diffuse… and yes it’s likely that it’s you that needs to be the one to change, to lead the way.

The truth is that if you are aiming for more peace and more calmness in your life then the only thing you can control is your own reaction to the situation.

This is called EMPOWERMENT.

2020 is about making sure that you are choosing your behaviours. Instead of REacting, your are choosing your actions.

You’ve got this. ❤️