3 Steps To Create Your Best Christmas Ever!

Christmas! It's like marmite, you either love it or you hate it.

In any case preparation is key and I wanted to share with you my favourite ways to handle Christmas so that you’re prepared for the season.

Each of us have different family dynamics so some of us will have much more supportive families than others. 

For those of you who do have supportive families and friends, lets take a moment to celebrate that because unfortunately its not as common as it should be. so.. YAY for support and back-up!

​For those of us who don’t have such supportive environments, this time of year can be a challenge - especially if you’re a sensitive person too (remembering this is your super power and not a flaw).

In my experience Christmas is full of family traditions that are very strongly reinforced by each person in the family - a sort of unwritten code that everyone must adhere to.  “We do Christmas this way, and that’s that”. There seems to be very little room for change or adaptation, and often its a little aggressive.

When we’re faced with this kind of behaviour we have a choice. 

The way I used to approach it when I first started this journey is a way that I personally wouldn’t recommend. I would definitely play the “I’m hard done by” card and make a massive deal about how no one cared, I would even sulk (not my finest moments) and definitely experience elements of victimhood. Again, not my finest moments but definitely behaviours that were deep rooted in my family and I needed to live out in order to move past. 

Thankfully that’s now happened. Phew. 

Below I share with you my suggestions for how to deal with the food side, emotional side and spiritual side of Christmas.


🎄The food side: 
It can be really hard work to keep eating healthily and self-lovingly at Christmas.. There is so much temptation around and it can feel like a losing battle.

My suggestion for thriving over the Christmas season is one of to ways: either go with the flow and take each moment, each encounter, each meal one meal at a time and be there with full heart and love for your family. This can be a challenge if we’re still working through our stories and personal life themes, but its good practice. 

OR

We can be prepared.

Preparation can take a few different approaches such as: 

1 - Prepare yourself a bit detoxing smoothie before you go and drink that en route so you’re not hungry and you can deal with temptation better. 

2 - Take food that you know you’ll be able to eat and share them with the others in your family.

3 - Host Christmas at your house and then you can offer whatever you wish. 

Remember: this is not an opportunity to lecture your family on what you feel they should and shouldn’t be eating / doing. (I learned this so hopefully you don’t have to! :) 

When the whole “where do you get your protein” question comes up, you can either go at this question like you’ve been attacked or pause for a moment (see below) and reply that all plants, pulses and fruit have protein in them and that we need a lot less than you’d think. Also the worlds strongest man is vegan :)

Then the question about too much fruit sugar, an easy reply is: Its not fruit sugar that’s the issue. Its refined sugar which causes diseases and toxicity. They’re completely different and should not be treated the same. 


🎄The emotional side: If you get triggered

It’s very very very likely that by spending any amount of time with family at Christmas that you or they will get triggered. 
Triggering means you start to experience feelings that are intense and uncomfortable rather than peaceful and calm. 

1 - Firstly, if you get triggered please take a moment to pause. Pause and breathe. 

Take as long as you need to calm down and don’t react. Reacting will cause my triggering and create a much bigger issue than needed. Go for a walk, go outside, go into another room or even the loo. Breathe.

2 - Take responsibility for your own behaviour.  Decide if there really is any need to reply to what’s been said. You have total control over the time of energy you wish to send out into your environment. Do you want to spread love or anger and annoyance. The choice is yours.

3 - Remember that you are having a human experience and allow yourself the grace and self-love to experience this. So if you react negatively then calm yourself down and know that you have the choice to choose where to go next. 

Families and certain social situations can also be fraught with energy vampires. If you know this is going to be the case for you, then I would suggest taking your emotional toolkit with you (something I do ALL the time).

In my toolkit I have:

1 - doTERRA Lemon essential oil. When I need a pick-me-up, I rub a drop or two in my hands and inhale deeply. This does two things: 1 - breathing and calming, 2 - picking me up energetically. Magic.
2 - doTERRA Geranium oil : the oil of love and trust - which I rub on my heart chakra to bring me back to love. ahhhh. 
3 - doTERRA melaleuca oil: the oil of energetic boundaries - rub a drop or two on your crown chakra and it’ll help protect your aura. 
You don’t have to use Doterra oils, but since they’re my favourite and totally non-toxic, they’re of course my favourite! 


🎄The spiritual side: Keep grounded:

Have you used any energetic protection before? If not then I wholly suggest finding a meditation that helps you to create an energetic boundary around you.
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Now only will this help you feel stronger and less battered in these trickier situations but long-term it will strengthen your aura - which we all need! 

The most important aspect of ALL of this is not to be too hard on yourself. These are all perfect opportunities to practice self-love, self-compassion and understanding. 

Remember, you are not alone. 

Above all be you... because you deserve to shine ✨